I want to share something that’s been a bit of a game changer for me on this inner journey… and it’s this idea of letting go.
Now, I know that can sound a bit fluffy at first. “Just let go” — people say it all the time. But what I’ve come to realise is that letting go isn’t some passive thing… it’s actually a skill. And when you start to develop it, it can completely change the way you experience your life.
If you want a deep dive into it, it is based on a book called "Letting Go" which I have found so useful in my self discovery journey.
There are two areas where I’ve seen this have a massive impact.
1. Letting go of your emotional reactions
One of the biggest breakthroughs for me came when I started to notice my reactions.
You know the ones…Something happens, and suddenly your triggered.
For some people it’s anger.
For others it’s anxiety.
For others it’s confusion.
And usually there is a physical side effect.
You might feel it in your stomach.
You might feel nausea.
Your chest tightens.
Your breathing changes.
The practice of letting go, in this context, is about separating yourself from what your body is doing.
So for example, if stress makes you feel sick, instead of automatically accepting that as truth, you start to question it:
Why should stress create this reaction in my body?
Is this actually real… or is this something I’ve learned over time?
And just asking that question begins to create space.
That space is where your power comes back.
Because instead of being inside the reaction… you’re now observing it.
You can explore it.
You can challenge it.
You can start to unravel the story behind it.
And this is where the real work begins — the work of identifying those false stories we’ve been carrying for years.
2. Letting go of your attachment to outcomes
The second place this really shows up is in how we approach goals, intentions, and outcomes.
Most of us have been taught to set goals and chase them.
And there’s nothing wrong with that. But what can happen — and I’ve experienced this myself - is that we become too attached to the outcome.
We start measuring ourselves against it.
We start thinking:
- “Why am I not there yet?”
- “What’s wrong with me?”
- “Maybe I’m not capable of this…”
And before you know it, something that was meant to motivate you… starts to drain you.
This is where letting go becomes incredibly powerful.
Not letting go of the intention, but letting go of the attachment to how and when it happens.
When you do that, something shifts.
You stop operating from pressure… and start operating from possibility.
You give yourself permission to:
- take a different path
- adjust your direction
- evolve your goals
- keep moving without the weight of “failure”
And what I’ve found is that you actually go further.
Because instead of constantly focusing on how far you are from the finish line… you start recognising how far you’ve already come.
Where your power really comes from
This is why I say:
The moment you let go is the moment you get your power back.
Because you’re no longer:
- controlled by your emotional reactions
- trapped by your body’s learned responses
- weighed down by expectations and outcomes
You’re free to observe.
Free to adapt.
Free to keep moving forward.
And that’s a very different way to live.
Final thought
If this is something you struggle with — if you feel like your emotions take over, or your goals sometimes feel heavy — I’d really encourage you to explore this idea of letting go a bit more.
Not as a concept… but as a practice.
Because when you start to separate yourself from the reaction, and release your grip on the outcome…
You step into something a bit different.
You step into flow.
And from there… a lot more becomes possible.